I moved cities recently. It was unplanned, unexpected, a leap at an opportunity that materialized seemingly out of nowhere.
Everything unfolded quickly and even the potential obstacles melted away without a blink.
Because the move happened so quickly I had a two-week overlap where both my former and my future homes were mine. This was good as it allowed me to move important things by myself, measure up my new place and plan the layout and usage. Yay!!
Then things started to go sideways.
This story has a point so please do not feel any sympathy, concern, or agony on my behalf! Although I thank you if you have a moment or two.
Allow me to go to point form now to make this easy.
- my movers were concerned when they saw the size of some of my antique furniture pieces that the job would need extra swampers and they weren’t keen on hiring as there are minimum job requirements that would inflate my price considerably. Would it be a physical risk for them to do the job?
- on one of my personal trips with a van full of electronics and fragiles, the transmission on my van got really pissy on a long hill.
- when I took my fun car in for a tune-up so it would make the trip successfully, the mechanics found my front brakes were seized. The car is 52 years old and parts are not readily available.
- the mechanics next checked out the transmission on my van and weren’t prepared to tackle the job as the van was old, high mileage and the model had a reputation for unreliable transmissions.
- my trusted mechanics in my previous (and long-term) home town immediately nixed putting the money into the van. It was declared deceased.
- the managers at my storage locker informed me prices were going up imminently.
All of the above happened within 4 days.
I believe The Universe talks to us and it was right about #5 that I was seriously wondering if The Universe was saying “Don’t do it!” I poured a tall glass of wine, sat in quiet meditation and reminded myself of all the reasons I was excited about this move – they were all great reasons!
Then I reminded myself of my long-standing claim to fame: like the cat with 9 lives I always manage to land to on my feet.
- I sat down and emailed my movers with 2 possible options – they were thrilled and agreed immediately.
- I questioned my local mechanic about my van and he told me the Kidney Foundation will arrange towing and gives tax receipts, even for non-working vehicles. It was arranged within 20 minutes.
- I went onto the Facebook page for my car club and put out a plea for help, although I knew many members were away at a Car Show. I had a phone call within minutes and although it was not productive, a private message from a friend from days gone by was full of cooperation and he drove quite a distance to make sure I had the parts in my hand before dusk. My landlady jumped into her car first thing next morning and drove me and my parts down to the repair shop. My fun car was home by noon.
- I phoned the shop owner from my previous town asking about what I might buy next and he admitted he had a nice sedan with a bit of class and a sunroof that might suit my needs – that transaction was completed 48 hours later.
- I gave notice at my storage locker, confident I could figure out a way to reintroduce all my belongings to life in the new place.
Phewff. I’m tired just rehashing all that!!
As I write this post, I have been in my new home for two weeks. I am almost unpacked and I have one last trip to clean out my storage locker. I love my new place, as does my family, my dog, and the friends who have seen it.
Earlier I promised you a point to my story and here it is:
- When push comes to shove, you can find the solutions you need to move your life forward. By this age you’ve done it before, somewhere, sometime. Remember that.
- Reach out to people who might be able to help or have a solution. Most people are happy / willing to help or refer you to someone who might. Ask anyone and everyone. If you’re sincerely appreciative, someone will step up. People are like that.
- You’re stronger than you think. We have this invisible reserve of Fight or Flight within us and when we need it, the Fight will get you through the turbulence. It appreciates having a job to do, and reminding you that it knows how to do its job!
The moral of my story for me was remembering. Remembering that I can be resourceful. Remembering that people are good and caring and generous. Remembering that no matter what things look like on social media, in our communities, people are our neighbours and that means something.
I’d love to hear how someone rallied to help you with an unexpected event… helped you because you reached out and asked.
I don’t know you at all but if someone ever asks you to choose a story to tell that shares who you are, I vote for you choosing this one. What I’m getting from it is that you’re clearly resourceful, a good friend (or you wouldn’t have as many offers of help as you did), and your take on life is predominantly positive. Oh, and you’re inspiring. Thanks for doing that through this post. #MLSTL
Karen! what a lovely comment! Thank you! I must admit I have met so many lovely people through my “rides” – ‘salt of the earth’ folk, my dad would have said. I try to stay positive, and if I inspired you even a bit, my day is Good! Thank you again for your kind words, and I appreeciate you stopping by!
We are like tea bags you don’t know how strong you are till you are in hot water.
I think that’s very much a female trait, Victoria! Thanks for stopping by!
What a wonderful story of challenge met with grit, persistence, creativity, and positive energy ! The result was a triumph, knowing once again that “you can do it, and how superb that your friends came to give support.
Thanks, Judith! Friends are amazing! and one only needs to ask! We’d all jump to the aid of our friends, we need to remember our friends will do the same for us!
Resilience – a must have for living day to day and you exhibited an inordinate amount of it. Well done!! #MLSTL visitor (shared on SM)
Resilience. Such a good word. I believe we all have more than we realize! Thanks for stopping by, Donna!
What an exhausting time! But I love the lessons learned – and I need to remember that reaching out is not a sign of weakness but rather a sign of resourcefulness and strength.
Interestingly, Molly, I used to have an attitude of independence at all costs, but I’ve learned over the years that I can’t do it all and there are times when the very best I could/should do is let someone else help! It lets them shine too, which is always a good thing!
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You took perseverance to a whole new level with all those decisions and all that mental energy! Good work!
I will admit it did feel like work as I started but as results rolled in as fast as I asked for them, I felt the joy of knowing I still “had it”.
Thanks for stopping by, Michele!
A very inspiring post. We can never escape hard times. They have the habit of popping up, sometimes quite frequently, sometimes at odd hours. But the point to remember, as you rightly said, is that we have the strength to get around them.
Came to your post via #MLSTL. Sharing this on my social media.
— Pradeep | bpradeepnair.blogspot.com
Absolutely, Pradeep! When things are great, one can get complacent and forget the strengths within.
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What a great story and so true that we are capable of a lot more than we often believe. I sometimes get a bit overwhelmed when calamaties come in a cluster, but when I look back I can see that tackling them one task at a time breaks it down into manageable chunks and you come out the other end. We always get through don’t we? Often the end result is sweeter for having had to earn it 🙂
Thanks for linking up with us at #MLSTL and I’ve shared this on my SM xx
Leanne | http://www.crestingthehill.com.au
Perzactly, Leanne! and Yes! my new life is looking even sweeter than before, already! I do agree about the “one task at a time” bit – it’s the only way to eat an elephant, as they say.
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Wonderful story to remind us all that the ‘little aggravations” may NOT be a sign not to continue but just a ‘sign’. I like your resolutions and the ways in which reaching out helped you. Go you good thing…as they say! Denyse #MLSTL
Hi, Denyse! and maybe they aren’t “signs” at all… they do say that “$h!t happens!” 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!
Oh we are so much stronger than we think and only realise it when we test ourselves. I am training for a long run at the moment and was talking with my running friend about the importance of mental strength and how we can push through when the body feels tired. Congratulations on making such a fast move and also for your positive outlook. Good luck with your new home and thanks for sharing your experience with us at #MLSTL. Great to have you link up with us.
Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyond
If I may tell a very short story, Sue… and I can’t remember who the runner was… but he was an elite runner who endured all sorts of hardships during one particular race but did not quit. When asked why he didn’t quit, he said none of it was on his list of ‘reasons to quit’. He and his trainer had discussed all the reasons why he might have to quit a race and none of the issues that befell him had been on the list so he kept on going. I remember that story in other areas of life… Read more »